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The Missing Stair2025 Apr 28
I've had this "Missing Stair" concept explained to me before and heard reference to it regularly over the years, but I've never read (what I believe is) the originating post that coined the phrase back in June 2012. So here it is. The author, Cliff Pervocracy, is eloquent and insightful in this and all their other posts I've just read but what I was not expecting is how the blog isn't necessarily about cultural commentary and social advice such as the "Missing Stair", but about one sex-addled person's journey through having lots and lots of kinky, unapologetic sex, discovering themself throughout, coming into themself (not like that), and then slowly transitioning from woman to man. Click around at your own peril, I spent hours reading through the linked blogolalia as if it were a TVTropes entry. And the author's efforts continue to this day, albeit on this new website.
But for those who are not famliar, what's a "Missing Stair"?
They're the person in a social circle who other people have to warn newcomers about. In the blog's excellent own words:
Have you ever been in a house that had something just egregiously wrong with it? Something massively unsafe and uncomfortable and against code, but everyone in the house had been there a long time and was used to it? "Oh yeah, I almost forgot to tell you, there's a missing step on the unlit staircase with no railings. But it's okay because we all just remember to jump over it."
I've had this "Missing Stair" concept explained to me before and heard reference to it regularly over the years, but I've never read (what I believe is) the originating post that coined the phrase back in June 2012. So here it is. The author, Cliff Pervocracy, is eloquent and insightful in this and all their other posts I've just read but what I was not expecting is how the blog isn't necessarily about cultural commentary and social advice such as the "Missing Stair", but about one sex-addled person's journey through having lots and lots of kinky, unapologetic sex, discovering themself throughout, coming into themself (not like that), and then slowly transitioning from woman to man. Click around at your own peril, I spent hours reading through the linked blogolalia as if it were a TVTropes entry. And the author's efforts continue to this day, albeit on this new website.
But for those who are not famliar, what's a "Missing Stair"?
They're the person in a social circle who other people have to warn newcomers about. In the blog's excellent own words: